Is there such a thing as “balance”? If so, how do you achieve it working and being a mom and a wife and a friend??
I completely agree with Sheryl Sandberg when she says: ‘The Most Important Career Choice You’ll Make Is Who You Marry.’ I’m so fortunate to have an amazing husband who is a real partner at home and supports the work I do. Realistically, I don’t really see “balance” as something that can be achieved daily, but at least weekly, or even every two weeks. There will always be busy times at work, but I try to make up for it by spending quality unplugged time with my husband, Donny, and son, Nathan, over the weekends (e.g. playing in the park) and in the evenings (e.g. bedtime stories and playtime). I do feel some “mommy and wife” guilt sometimes since I tend to come home a bit late, but I usually make it home in time for some evening bedtime stories, and a later dinner with the hubby. Living close to my parents also allows for date night opportunities with just me and Donny every now and then. As for friends, lately instead of meeting for drinks, I try to have “workout dates”, so I can double up on spending time with friends and getting in a workout! (e.g. yoga, spin, Zumba). Of course, I also make sure I carve out time at least once a month to support DFS with the PWG Alumni group meetings/mentorship and other activities. Housecleaning and chores tend to end up on the bottom of the “balance” list…but we may consider getting professional help in that area. It’s all about setting the priorities that are most important to you!
What is your morning routine?
I do the morning daycare drop off and my husband does the end of day pick up, so he leaves the house early, which means I get Nathan ready in the morning. Nathan and I usually get some play time in together in the morning, while we have breakfast. Every now and then I’ve had to clean up spilled bowls of Cheerios off the floor, but it’s all part of the morning adventure. Once I get him and me dressed, I drop him off at his pre-school in the morning and then head to the office.
What is the last thing you do before you go to bed?
I tell my husband how much I love him and appreciate him.
What’s your daily uniform?
Lucky me – Aritzia clothes! I have a lot of Babaton and Wilfred items in my closet. Typical outfit is a pair of Babaton trousers with a blouse or blazer. Every now and then I do dress down and throw on some comfy jeans and Stan Smith sneakers.
Who is the woman you admire most?
- My mom (*sniff sniff*) – now that I’m a mom myself, I appreciate her even more and admire the way she was able to manage the household, her work, and raise THREE kids while my dad worked out of the country (in the Philippines) while we were growing up.
- My first HR manager – Right out of university, I worked with my first manager, Marjorie, for 11 years and I learned so much from her about the human resources field and about being a really supportive mentor and manager. She was the one who inspired me to continue to pursue the HR field and also contribute to the community in general. I also learned from her the importance of women supporting other women in both your personal and professional networks, which is why I was drawn to the work YES and DFS do!